:baby_symbol: Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit
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We were "we want to be surprised" people for both of ours. It was an amazing part of the birth an we wouldn't have had it any other way.
For us it was a bit (but only a bit) like the difference between someone telling you in October that you're getting a PS4 for Christmas (SURPRISE!) and you opening it on December 25.
This.
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like the difference between someone telling you in October that you're getting a PS4 for Christmas (SURPRISE!) and you opening it on December 25.
That would piss me off, since my birthday is in October. Why not give it to me now?
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It's on lay-by, they haven't finished paying it off yet.
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Here you go. It's a combined Xmas and Birthday present.
Filed Under: Birthday in early January, Still bitter
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My sister in law's birthday is on Christmas day. Half the presents
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Filed Under: Birthday in early January, Still bitterMy parents made good use of boxing day, though.
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My brother's is on 20th December, and his son's is 29th December.
It gets busy around Christmas...
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It gets busy around Christmas...
Sounds more like it gets busy in March ... <INB4 giggity
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My ex had two brothers and a sister, all 4 of them had birthdays within a couple of weeks. It was almost exactly 9 months after her Dad's birthday.
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It was almost exactly 9 months after her Dad's birthday.
Hm, I'm a December kid, my mother's birthday is in April, and I think I was supposed to be born the next year...
*does the math*
Filed under: oh my God, they must have had sex!
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10 weeks exactly (well, it was on Wednesday). Boom, heartbeat on the tricorder:
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It gets busy around Christmas...
Various members of my family, including me, my dad, an uncle and two grandmothers (not in that order): 10 Dec, 24 Dec, 31 Dec, 3 Jan, 7 Jan — all but the uncle occurring on the same day of the week in any given Dec-Jan string of birthdays.
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Mine's Jan 1st.
I used to know someone who's birthday is November 14th.
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@Lorne_Kates said:
8 weeks 5 days. We can see a head, a spine, teeny tiny gummy-bear arms and legs, and a nice strong heart.
If the baby has a heart, are you sure it is yours?
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which doubled the fun of making lists of absurd baby names.
Sometimes I still wish we had stuck with "James Tiberius", but it was not to be**.
For our first, my wife and I were in complete agreement on name at the very beginning. For our second, there was some disagreement. So she suggested that we use our 3 year old as a tie breaker. I told her that was a stupid idea, but she insisted.
So, we explain it to him and she tells him her name and then I decided to illustrate how silly her idea was by suggesting that we name him "Mr. Poopypants". Our 3 year old loved that name and was all-in.
Me: "See? This is why 3 year olds don't get input on serious decisions like this."
Wife: "I hate you."
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If the baby has a heart, are you sure it is yours?
Baby got it from the mother's side.
Also: My kid will know their exact date is Aug 20th. Because IVF. Go, science!
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So, we explain it to him and she tells him her name and then I decided to illustrate how silly her idea was by suggesting that we name him "Mr. Poopypants". Our 3 year old loved that name and was all-in.
For the first time in recorded it history it will be true when someone says: "You know, he looks like a Mr. Poopypants "
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For our second, there was some disagreement.
Use both choices. Order determined by coin flip or something.
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@Polygeekery said:
For our second, there was some disagreement.
Use both choices. Order determined by coin flip or something.
Then there's disagreement as to
a) who gets to flip the coin and
b) who's deciding what's head and tails.
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Use both choices. Order determined by coin flip or something.
She had a middle name that she wanted to use, so that was already set.
Also, we went with my choice in the end. :)
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You can resolve that by flipping a coin.
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You can resolve that by flipping a coin.
Otherwise also know as the "Binary Decision Finder". It's always funny how few of my pupils are able to parse this term and, with them knowing my love for electronic gadgets, they are always disappointed when I pull out a coin :)
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Relevant-ish:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L6eYa3qDwV4
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@Rhywden said:
"Binary Decision Finder"
Beware of edge cases
OH SHIT THE UNIVERSE IS ENDING!
Or we're in The Matrix XP:
https://what.thedailywtf.com/t/the-matrix-has-you-a-k-a-god-must-use-windows/12164/9
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What can I say,
greatderanged minds think alike.
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Advice request.
So the holidays are coming up. I'm technically Jewish by birth (though not faith), so we sorta celebrate Hanuka. Mostly an excuse to light candles and give each other small gifts. =)
Every year, I tend to get her eight small gifts on a theme. One year was chocolate. One year was horror video games.
So far we haven't done much shopping or planning or anything really for baby. Having a second trimester loss will kinda take some of the innocence out of you. :| On the other hand, I feel we shouldn't be too detached before the viability scan in January. The start of December will be just past the 17 week point, which is when it happened last time.
SO-- I'd like to get her 8 small presents around being pregnant / a mom. We already have plans for some of the big ticket items-- stroller, crib, etc. She already has a pregnancy pillow to keep her comfy while she sleeps.
But what other gifts would you recommend? Anything you/your wife found really nice, comfortable, useful, etc during pregnancy-- or while planning on having a newborn around? It could be something useful, or something completely self-indulgent and "frivolous". Anything you have in mind would be cool to hear about.
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Well, it's been almost 20 years since I was in that situation, so my memories are pretty vague.
@Lorne_Kates said:
something completely self-indulgent and "frivolous".
The only thing that comes to mind is, maybe, something like a gift certificate for pedicures; as she gets bigger, it'll get hard for her to do that sort of thing herself. And afterward, having you/grandma/whoever watch the baby for an hour or so while she does that will also (probably, everybody likes different things) be much appreciated.
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In terms of useful stuff, my wife swears by her bump belt. (UK Amazon, I'm not going on your weird Canadian one)
She's also had a lot of use out of lumbar cushions, as the whole curved spine thing makes sitting in normal chairs or driving quite uncomfortable.
Novelty baby clothes that can be used to embarrass the sprog once it's older: we bought a Darth Vader babygro the other day.
If she has enough of a sense of humour around it, something relating to "baby brain" might go down well, maybe a notebook with a slightly insulting cover.
Someone earlier in the thread mentioned a memories book for recording things like first words and other memories you'd like to keep.
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I got my wife a 5 year diary. We use ours to look back at where the kids were up to a few years ago, and also to make a note of which TV box set we were watching at the time.
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@Lorne_Kates said:
But what other gifts would you recommend? Anything you/your wife found really nice, comfortable, useful, etc during pregnancy-- or while planning on having a newborn around? It could be something useful, or something completely self-indulgent and "frivolous". Anything you have in mind would be cool to hear about.
I called around and found massage therapists that were used to working with pregnant women and bought her a package deal that she could redeem as necessary. I also paid for her to have a spa day with one of her friends. Anything that will help relax her will be appreciated.
Being wintertime, she may appreciate access to an indoor pool. I know my wife loved going to the pool as it was the only way she could really get the weight off of her back and feet. If you already have a gym membership, maybe suggest that. If you don't, I doubt you could pass that off without it seeming like you are saying she needs to lose some weight...
Other things my wife appreciated while pregnant, foot baths. In our area, there are a ton of cheap Asian foot massage places that have popped up. She loved it as her feet hurt a fair bit. Also, although it sounds ghetto, one night I cleaned up a 5-gallon bucket and filled it with very hot water and Epson salts for her to soak her feet.
Really, anything massage or spa related would most likely be very appreciated.
On the useful and practical end, a membership to Costco for diaper and formula purchases is very practical. Also, I am a huge proponent of the bottle drying racks that look like artificial grass by Boon. They work amazingly well.
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Whatever you do, don't call her brisk walk a "turbo waddle"!
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Whatever you do, don't call her brisk walk a "turbo waddle"!
Bah--now's the perfect time, as she can't catch you to hit you!
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My wife officially entered the third trimester today. I've felt some very light kicking a couple of times and it's all starting to feel quite real.
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- A camera
- A notebook/diary (as suggested above)
- ... with a good pen
- A nursing pillow
- Peltors (or the small in-ear yellow ones that you can also wear while sleeping)
- Walking shoes
- The best and most complete book you can find on her favourite topic
- A really big coffee mug
- Something that is just for her to remind her that she is so much more than just a mother.
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I'm curious. What did you eventually decide to buy? It is ok if you want to wait with the answer until next saturday.
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I bet it was 15 puppies.
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I'm curious. What did you eventually decide to buy? It is ok if you want to wait with the answer until next saturday.
There was some massaging, since her hips have been in horrendous pain (and she's under orders for no professional or deep tissue massage)
I got her a shower seat-- a waterproof, slip-proof chair for the shower. She likes long showers, and I understand standing for long periods of time (or bending down) will get harder and harder as time goes on.
Some chocolates she was craving at the moment.
And then clothes shopping, because we found out the gender. =)
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@Lorne_Kates said:
because we found out the gender.
IT'S SEX YOU INSENSITIVE CLOD
(also, come on, tell us, which is it?)
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(also, come on, tell us, which is it?)
Better question: did they buy blue or pink clothes?
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We know the sex of our baby and we've bought pink and blue clothes.
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Is it a baby fox?
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IT'S SEX YOU INSENSITIVE CLOD
(also, come on, tell us, which is it?)
I tend to wait until asked, since some people like the surprise. Or like to guess:
WHAT GENDER IS LORNE'S BABY?
[poll]- Boy
- Girl
- A 1000 Page Flamewar About Non-Binary Gender Identity
[/poll]
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It's a 100% consensus. Your baby is definitely a girl, even if the doctors say otherwise. What do they know?
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It could just be an extremely wussy boy.
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It's a 100% consensus. Your baby is definitely a girl
I think your "consensus" is a bit out of date.