Tinder is shit
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@Groaner I'm pretty sure she's Cancer.
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@TimeBandit said in Tinder is shit:
@Gąska said in Tinder is shit:
it's the man's job to win her with a good pickup
Win her, not run her over. Back in the box with you.
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@Groaner said in Tinder is shit:
"the odd being I have become" ??????
Epic poser(ette) is epic. Sorry.
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@topspin That's such a Scorpio thing to say.
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@Steve_The_Cynic said in Tinder is shit:
@Groaner said in Tinder is shit:
"the odd being I have become" ??????
Epic poser(ette) is epic. Sorry.
Well, yeah, this one's clearly a solid 14 on the pH scale. The inability to grasp that eliminating half the potential dating pool based on birthday might be frivolous, to the extent that multiple people might comment on the frivolity, is what does it for me.
But in her defense, she also didn't furnish a lengthy checklist of hard requirements.
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@Groaner said in Tinder is shit:
this one's clearly a solid 14 on the pH scale.
I like this figure of speech.
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@Groaner said in Tinder is shit:
Well, yeah, this one's clearly a solid 14 on the pH scale.
That remark does seem rather ... caustic.
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@Groaner said in Tinder is shit:
But in her defense, she also didn't furnish a lengthy checklist of hard requirements.
The screenshot is cropped - there's still hope!
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@boomzilla
@Polygeekery’s sister?
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@levicki
A New Jersey woman set fire to a man’s home after accepting a booty call invitation only to discover when she arrived that he had fallen asleep, police charge.
According to cops, Taija Russell, 29, torched Curtis Stokes’s home around 4 AM on August 4. Russell was arrested this week on several felony charges, including attempted homicide, aggravated arson, and aggravated assault.
As detailed in a probable cause affidavit, Russell had initially texted Stokes “hello,” to which he responded, “Bring ya ass.” But Stokes, 32, told cops that he fell asleep after inviting Russell over and that he “later awoke to his house on fire.” During a police interview, Stokes referred to Russell as a “side chick.”
Investigators say that when Russell (seen above) arrived at the residence, the snoozing Stokes did not hear her at the front door. He also did not respond to a series of text messages sent by Russell while she was outside his home.
In those texts, Russell complained, “You wasted my money to come out here.” She then allegedly sent a series of threats declaring, “U smoked,” “I see you wanna die,” and “I swear to god I hope you die."
Unable to contact Stokes, cops say, Russell went to a nearby Conoco gas station, where she purchased lighter fluid, matches, and a cigarette lighter. She then returned to the property and allegedly set a fire outside the door.
As seen in the below photos, the resulting blaze destroyed the one-story home in Woodbury, a city just south of Camden and Philadelphia.
Stokes, who escaped the flames through a window, was transported to a local hospital “suffering from burns and smoke inhalation,” cops reported. The man’s dog was rescued from the home by firefighters.
Investigators quickly recognized signs of arson, like the presence of an accelerant, and launched a criminal investigation. Through interviews with Stokes and other witnesses, and a review of surveillance video, cops identified Russell as the alleged perpetrator.
Russell was busted Tuesday and booked into the Salem County jail, where she is being held without bail.
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@levicki I take option c) the fact that you can’t tell.
Hint: I’ll bet you $500 it’s a bot.
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I dunno, it seems like a perfectly normal conversation with a Polish person
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@levicki said in Tinder is shit:
@boomzilla I don't know what is more depressing -- the fact that this Regina person wasn't real and was instead an AI bot phishing for victims or that she might have been real but incapable of noticing the other person is asking questions.
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@levicki said in Tinder is shit:
@boomzilla I don't know what is more depressing -- the fact that this Regina person wasn't real and was instead an AI bot phishing for victims or that she might have been real but incapable of noticing the other person is asking questions.
Is it more depressing that I want to talk to it regardless?
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@Tsaukpaetra said in Tinder is shit:
Is it more depressing that I want to talk to it regardless?
No, the more depressing part is that you would still bang it
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@TimeBandit said in Tinder is shit:
@Tsaukpaetra said in Tinder is shit:
Is it more depressing that I want to talk to it regardless?
No, the more depressing part is that you would still bang it
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Good news everyone! MySpace is back!
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https://www.nytimes.com/2020/01/13/business/grindr-apps-dating-data-tracking.html
(it was either here, or the GPDR thread. And it's not just Grindr and OkCupid, Tinder does the same.)
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@Zerosquare I am shocked, shocked, to see personal details being shared on a personal dating service!
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I can't say I'm surprised. But that doesn't make it right.
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@Zerosquare Their paywall sucks, in more than one way. Reader View FTW.
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"currently in a relationship that is not open (aka cheating)"
Is that what that's called?
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@Tsaukpaetra said in Tinder is shit:
"currently in a relationship that is not open (aka cheating)"
Is that what that's called?
There's a big polyamory/"ethical" non-monogamy scene in the area in which I live, so addressing the topic explicitly isn't a terrible idea. I've seen a fair number of profiles which mention a partner that is aware of the arrangement. I can't see how it won't eventually end in tears*, but maybe that's just poor conservative ol'-me who's far behind the times.
*Hint: What happens when you have two entities in front of you when you previously had only one? That's right, you compare them! Your mind will continuously evaluate various traits from both of the two entities on various axes. Eventually, all these comparisons will converge on a single, subjective axis called "better or worse," and one of the entities is rendered obsolete **.
**I have a few friends and acquaintances who are either in or adjacent to said poly scene, and not surprisingly, some of them have gotten hurt. Rather than directly call them out over their mistakes, I have opted for the more subtle approach, sowing seeds of doubt by invoking anecdotes of exes who "compared" Person A to Person B and ended up discarding the lesser as obsolete, so they might connect the dots with respect to their own individual situations.
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And on the topic of "ethical" non-monogamy, here's a gem I've had saved for quite a while:
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@Groaner said in Tinder is shit:
And on the topic of "ethical" non-monogamy, here's a gem I've had saved for quite a while:
That all sounds like a job that requires actual labor, no thanks!
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@Groaner said in Tinder is shit:
Hint: What happens when you have two entities in front of you when you previously had only one? That's right, you compare them! Your mind will continuously evaluate various traits from both of the two entities on various axes. Eventually, all these comparisons will converge on a single, subjective axis called "better or worse," and one of the entities is rendered obsolete
Do you stick to one friend at a time then?
My own experimentation back in my twenties is enough for me to know I'm not suited to poly relationships but that seems like a terrible argument
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@Groaner How fat is size 10 at 5'3"?
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@Jaloopa said in Tinder is shit:
@Groaner said in Tinder is shit:
Hint: What happens when you have two entities in front of you when you previously had only one? That's right, you compare them! Your mind will continuously evaluate various traits from both of the two entities on various axes. Eventually, all these comparisons will converge on a single, subjective axis called "better or worse," and one of the entities is rendered obsolete
Do you stick to one friend at a time then?
My own experimentation back in my twenties is enough for me to know I'm not suited to poly relationships but that seems like a terrible argument
Actually, as I gain more and more friends to divide among a finite pool of time, yes, I do become a bit more choosy. I don't tend to hang around groups that spend entire afternoons playing board games anymore, in lieu of groups which better feed professional and personal development. I could easily see someone with an abundance of options in the sexual marketplace but limited time and energy becoming similarly choosy over their options, and ranking certain ones over certain others.
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@blek said in Tinder is shit:
@Groaner How fat is size 10 at 5'3"?
I don't know. I don't remember her being obese, but the profile has been deleted so I can't verify. :(
If you can translate size to measurements, I'm sure there's plenty of software which might simulate such a body type given those parameters. I wouldn't happen to know of any such software as I can't give away all my secrets.
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@Groaner said in Tinder is shit:
Most of these are sensible requirements. A lot of prejudice, but also a lot of red flags avoided. But some are straight up bullshit - like, WTF does she mean by "undue emotional labor"? Does she even know what a relationship is? That it involves relating with each other?
And "doesn't respect my career" sounds like she has a career in something very sketchy.
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@Tsaukpaetra said in Tinder is shit:
"currently in a relationship that is not open (aka cheating)"
Is that what that's called?
Is that not what it's called?
Obviously, being in a relationship is not the same as cheating, but being in a (non-open) relationship and using a dating site is either cheating or looking to cheat. Whereas it's not cheating if your partner knows and has given you permission.
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@topspin said in Tinder is shit:
@Tsaukpaetra said in Tinder is shit:
"currently in a relationship that is not open (aka cheating)"
Is that what that's called?
Is that not what it's called?
Obviously, being in a relationship is not the same as cheating, but being in a (non-open) relationship and using a dating site is either cheating or looking to cheat. Whereas it's not cheating if your partner knows and has given you permission.Exactly. It seems like begging the question (or whatever). You'd naturally be excluded, and the requirement could be stated with much less bushwacking.
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@Gąska said in Tinder is shit:
@Groaner said in Tinder is shit:
Most of these are sensible requirements. A lot of prejudice, but also a lot of red flags avoided. But some are straight up bullshit
Mostly agreed.
I find some of them create self-fulfilling prophecies for the other side, e.g. never been in a relationship. If everyone does that, how can you ever have a relationship? But then, I don't know her age so maybe that's just excluding people who are way too young for her, who knows.
Another one is the "no social support network". That sounds like "I don't make friends with people who don't have friends". (Or maybe that just hits home and I'm jaded, which really isn't her problem to deal with)
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@topspin said in Tinder is shit:
Another one is the "no social support network". That sounds like "I don't make friends with people who don't have friends". (Or maybe that just hits home and I'm jaded, which really isn't her problem to deal with)
Also, the way she put it makes it look like SHE needs a network to rely on because she doesn't have one of her own.
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@Tsaukpaetra said in Tinder is shit:
and the requirement could be stated with much less bushwacking.
@error_bot gif bushwacked
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@Tsaukpaetra said in Tinder is shit:
no thanks!
Did we just observed the first time you said you would not tap that?
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@Gąska said in Tinder is shit:
And "doesn't respect my career" sounds like she has a career in something very sketchy.
Depends. Might be e.g. waiting tables.(1) In an ordinary restaurant. That attracts disrespect from some people.(2)
But it does suggest the the person who posted that isn't totally confident about her choice of career, and doesn't want any flak from her date about it.
(1) Long before I met her, the late Mrs Cynic did that for a while.
(2) Mrs Cynic did say that the worst for that were businesswomen.
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@Steve_The_Cynic said in Tinder is shit:
@Gąska said in Tinder is shit:
And "doesn't respect my career" sounds like she has a career in something very sketchy.
Depends. Might be e.g. waiting tables.