Tinder is shit
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Current Status: Carrying the conversation. I mean, I don't expect prose in epic length but if you open up with "hello", I then reply with "Nice to hear from you. I'm currently doing foo to get a bit of rest from yesterday. And how's your weekend going?" and then I get:
Fine, how are you?
Well, then I know that it's not going that great. Especially if I then get the question "Are you a teacher?" when I included that bit of info in my bio.
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@Rhywden to me this seems like normal what is called small talk, from the smallness. Consider it to be a nonsemantic handshake protocol. Even the reverification of knowns is non-malicious there, but an adaptation to a de-facto zero-trust initial basis.
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@Rhywden said in Tinder is shit:
Current Status: Carrying the conversation. I mean, I don't expect prose in epic length but if you open up with "hello", I then reply with "Nice to hear from you. I'm currently doing foo to get a bit of rest from yesterday. And how's your weekend going?" and then I get:
Fine, how are you?
Well, then I know that it's not going that great. Especially if I then get the question "Are you a teacher?" when I included that bit of info in my bio.
Are you conversing with a bot? Or just a very, very lazy human?
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@PotatoEngineer Yes.
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@HardwareGeek said in Tinder is shit:
@PotatoEngineer Yes.
She stated that she also was a teacher for French, history and sports before she then went radio silent (about that I'm not surprised).
It's always funny, though, how I'm thinking multiple times about the things to say in the initiation of such a contact, like: "Too short? Too long? Shows overeagerness or hints at disinterest? Does it provide hooks to keep the conversation going? ..."
And then getting a "hello" thrown at my feet.
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@Rhywden said in Tinder is shit:
for French
,history and sportsWhat a strange subject! Competitive wine drinking?
(at least you would have honestly earned the radio silence )
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@Rhywden I get the part where youāre complaining about carrying the conversation on your own, thatās pretty annoying.
On the flip side, about the āhelloā part, Iāve read a lot of profiles that preemptively tell me I shouldnāt hit them up with a āhiā and theyāll ignore that if I donāt have a better opening. Um yeah, I donāt know you yet, Iām not going to start off with a soliloquy when a priori the most likely outcome is that Iāll be ignored anyway. I start a conversation with hello, deal with it or fuck off.
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@topspin said in Tinder is shit:
@Rhywden I get the part where youāre complaining about carrying the conversation on your own, thatās pretty annoying.
On the flip side, about the āhelloā part, Iāve read a lot of profiles that preemptively tell me I shouldnāt hit them up with a āhiā and theyāll ignore that if I donāt have a better opening. Um yeah, I donāt know you yet, Iām not going to start off with a soliloquy when a priori the most likely outcome is that Iāll be ignored anyway. I start a conversation with hello, deal with it or fuck off.
This was more in the vein of "she then continued on with the short, three words or less replies". I'm fine with it if someone doesn't want to say a lot in the first message for the reason you specified - but after that? Make an effort.
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@Rhywden said in Tinder is shit:
@topspin said in Tinder is shit:
@Rhywden I get the part where youāre complaining about carrying the conversation on your own, thatās pretty annoying.
On the flip side, about the āhelloā part, Iāve read a lot of profiles that preemptively tell me I shouldnāt hit them up with a āhiā and theyāll ignore that if I donāt have a better opening. Um yeah, I donāt know you yet, Iām not going to start off with a soliloquy when a priori the most likely outcome is that Iāll be ignored anyway. I start a conversation with hello, deal with it or fuck off.
This was more in the vein of "she then continued on with the short, three words or less replies". I'm fine with it if someone doesn't want to say a lot in the first message for the reason you specified - but after that? Make an effort.
Back when I was inflicting myself on the dating pond, I just said singing along the lines of "you don't seem particularly interested, so I'll take my time elsewhere".
I also mostly didn't initialize conversations, i found that the tinder conversations i had to start were mightily laborious. Better let the woman initiate, then they say least have some sort of motivation for keeping a conversation going.
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@Rhywden said in Tinder is shit:
And then getting a "hello" thrown at my feet.
And you're complaining? Some of us never even get that far, you know!
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@Carnage said in Tinder is shit:
I also mostly didn't initialize conversations
Isn't that a risk of undefined behavior?
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@Carnage Well, that's the thing: She initiated the conversation. But, well, considering the kind of profiles I see...
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@Rhywden said in Tinder is shit:
@Carnage Well, that's the thing: She initiated the conversation. But, well, considering the kind of profiles I see...
Complain about students. If you ever do one thing I suggest do this.
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@Zerosquare said in Tinder is shit:
@Carnage said in Tinder is shit:
I also mostly didn't initialize conversations
Isn't that a risk of undefined behavior?
The OS will always initialize them for you.
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@blek said in Tinder is shit:
I'm not even going to go into how I hate the entire way this app works - I know it was meant for hookups and I'm using it wrong
I decided to add to my list of dating-apps-I'll-never-actually-find-someone-with.
Look, some real photos!
Already got four bots liking me, but unless I pay I won't be able to like them back to talk. Oh well.
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@Tsaukpaetra said in Tinder is shit:
@blek said in Tinder is shit:
I'm not even going to go into how I hate the entire way this app works - I know it was meant for hookups and I'm using it wrong
I decided to add to my list of dating-apps-I'll-never-actually-find-someone-with.
Look, some real photos!
Already got four bots liking me, but unless I pay I won't be able to like them back to talk. Oh well.
And there isn't going to be any more likes after a few days.
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@Tsaukpaetra The fuck you went and ugly-shopped the first picture (which isn't good to begin with, as selfies tend to be)?
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@Tsaukpaetra said in Tinder is shit:
Already got four bots liking me, but unless I pay I won't be able to like them back to talk. Oh well.
Really??
I was under the impression you can use it without paying. Why the fuck is anyone even using this then?@Applied-Mediocrity said in Tinder is shit:
@Tsaukpaetra The fuck you went and ugly-shopped the first picture (which isn't good to begin with, as selfies tend to be)?
Yeah, Iād say start with the fourth one (shirt and tie), if you want my irrelevant opinion.
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@topspin said in Tinder is shit:
I was under the impression you can use it without paying.
You can according to the website. The paid subscriptions are for "premium" features.
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@loopback0 said in Tinder is shit:
@topspin said in Tinder is shit:
I was under the impression you can use it without paying.
You can according to the website. The paid subscriptions are for "premium" features.
This leaves me with the question whether replies are premium features.
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@topspin the website says chatting is in the free tier
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@loopback0 said in Tinder is shit:
@topspin the website says chatting is in the free tier
Premium let's you see who liked you. And also start talking without a match i think.
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@topspin said in Tinder is shit:
Yeah, Iād say start with the fourth one (shirt and tie), if you want my irrelevant opinion.
I happen to agree with your irrelevant opinion. On the other hand, perhaps Harry (is that your real name, Anthony? ) intended to give the impression of being an NPC from a late 1990s video game
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@Applied-Mediocrity said in Tinder is shit:
@Tsaukpaetra The fuck you went and ugly-shopped the first picture (which isn't good to begin with, as selfies tend to be)?
I dunced and selected my passport photo. Haven't quite bothered to figure out how to delete it.
@topspin said in Tinder is shit:
Yeah, Iād say start with the fourth one (shirt and tie), if you want my irrelevant opinion.
Noted. I will adjust when I figure out how.
@loopback0 said in Tinder is shit:
@topspin the website says chatting is in the free tier
It is, once you both swipe each other. Or something.
@Applied-Mediocrity said in Tinder is shit:
is that your real name, Anthony?
That's my legal name. Wasn't paying attention and now that's apparently permanent.
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"Take your best shot, flatlander women."
Filed under: Apparently I've done everything else that needed doing this year
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@Applied-Mediocrity said in Tinder is shit:
"Take your best shot, flatlander women."
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@Applied-Mediocrity how did you know what sunglasses I wear?!?
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@boomzilla that catās expression:
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@Zerosquare one man's damaged beyond repair is another man's mint condition. Especially if a Polish guy takes care of it. Wszystko siÄ wyklepie
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Meanwhile, in Japan it's the opposite: second-hand items which state is stated as "junk" are often in good condition, or can be easily restored. (Yes, I did manage to get some stuff at bargain basement prices that way.)
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Ah, yes, suddenly three random 20-somethings decided to flirt from across the country.
seems legit.
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@Tsaukpaetra said in Tinder is shit:
Ah, yes, suddenly three random 20-somethings decided to flirt from across the
countrycontinent.
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@Tsaukpaetra said in Tinder is shit:
@Zerosquare said in Tinder is shit:
What a strange waffle, it's not blue.
The Blue Waffle Conjecture shows further cracks, eh?
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@Tsaukpaetra said in Tinder is shit:
seems legit.
Status: Anti-catfishing.
Got a response!
Fuck yeah! But I don't got whatsapp. Let's see what they say...
I think that's a fine conversation starter. Not great, but at least there's no dick pick involved, right? WELL....
Wait a cotton-picking minute, I emailed Lexy! Who the shit it Elodie?!? Well, whatever, let's respond... (while drafting reply)
Oh, a different mail address sent this one. Yet somehow GMail is smart enough to keep them in-chain.
Damn, they're not desperate enough. Oh well. I suppose I'll have to avoid them.
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Of course, because your freezer is hardware, and we all know how that goes with you
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@TimeBandit said in Tinder is shit:
Of course, because your freezer is hardware, and we all know how that goes with you
Fun fact, it did not die, but mysteriously the control dial was moved to the "Off" position.
At least we get a new $1k freezer I suppose...
Filed under: Who the shit puts the controls at the BACK of the unit?!?!
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@TimeBandit said in Tinder is shit:
Of course, because your freezer is hardware, and we all know how that goes with you
Wait. If the freezer died, how can you possibly "chill"?
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@dcon said in Tinder is shit:
@TimeBandit said in Tinder is shit:
Of course, because your freezer is hardware, and we all know how that goes with you
Wait. If the freezer died, how can you possibly "chill"?
Doesn't that just come as a side feature of Netflix?
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@dcon said in Tinder is shit:
If the freezer died, how can you possibly "chill"?
You're replying to . It's almost impossible for him not to chill.
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...unless @Karla is around.
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@izzion said in Tinder is shit:
@dcon said in Tinder is shit:
@TimeBandit said in Tinder is shit:
Of course, because your freezer is hardware, and we all know how that goes with you
Wait. If the freezer died, how can you possibly "chill"?
Doesn't that just come as a side feature of Netflix?
I'm pretty sure the Netflix is what makes the chill.
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Big if true
Also, what the hell is that article? The title says "see what you get", the body says "Tinder has revealed", followed immediately by "lol noone knows what it's supposed to do", and then it talks about $60 per month instead of $500. And the whole thing is like ten short sentences. I know this is The Sun but good lord.
Can't happen soon enough, really.