:baby_symbol: Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit
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@Lorne_Kates said:
And then their son grew up to be this guy:
Filed Under: This was the wrong thread to start with today.
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- Have kids.
- Harvest unbelievable amounts of snot.
- ??????
- Profit.
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@Lorne_Kates said:
Three years of trying, two years of fertility treatments, more IUIs than I can count, one miscarriage (17 weeks =( ), and now one IVF (and 5 weeks and 6 days) later...
Congratulations!
Our first was conceived with IVF after many years of trying normally. Our second was conceived naturally when our first was just 4 months old - this was quite unexpected.
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Congratulations!
Thanks.
Our first was conceived with IVF after many years of trying normally. Our second was conceived naturally when our first was just 4 months old - this was quite unexpected.
You'd be surprised how many times I've heard that same scenario from other two-time parents. =)
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My wife was convinced it would take ages due to various stuff in her medical history. We were prepared for a year or more of trying, so she came off birth control 3 months before the wedding. She was almost a month pregnant when we actually got married (we didn't find out until we came home from honeymoon)
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Our first was really easy...second one, not so much. We'd been trying for a year or so before having fertility tests done. For the hysterosalpingogram (xray looking at the uterus / tubes) they squirt some dye up the tubes in order to image them. BANG! Pregnant the next month. I had just done the test to see if I was the problem, but since she was pregnant, never went back to get the results. Seems like the tubes had been clogged and the test flushed them out.
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the tubes had been clogged
So you didn't take your job at lubing the tubes serious, did you?
Serious: had a similar experience, we where waiting for the right time of the month to get certain tests done but that time never came ...
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Yeah, I got pregnant right after the test (after 3 failed IUIs) and was sitting in the class for IVF and already pregnant (found out a week later).
And congratulations @Lorne_Kates
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For the hysterosalpingogram (xray looking at the uterus / tubes) they squirt some dye up the tubes in order to image them. BANG! Pregnant the next month.
Yup. A lot of those test, though they don't know exactly why, seem to give you about a 10-25% boost in chance to get pregnant the cycle after. The best hypothesis seems to be that it's "clearing the way". =)
Yeah, I got pregnant right after the test (after 3 failed IUIs) and was sitting in the class for IVF and already pregnant (found out a week later).
Ironically, that is kinda how the first one went. 3 IUIs. About to go on vacation before starting IVF. Get a positive test. Unfortunately that's the one that miscarried. =(
This one was 3 more IUIs, and then IVF. We have 3 more embryos in the freezer (aka: offline backup).
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@Lorne_Kates said:
We have 3 more embryos in the freezer (aka: offline backup).
Aren't your offline backups supposed to be three different generations, though?Filed under: Doing It Wrong™
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If someone mentions "crowd storage" I'm going to scream.
Oh, wait. Aaaaaaeeeeiiiieeeeeaaaaaa!!!!
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8 weeks 5 days. We can see a head, a spine, teeny tiny gummy-bear arms and legs, and a nice strong heart.
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Are you going to find out what you're having?
I feel as if this question might land me in hot water with the "not just boys and girls" police.
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Are you going to find out what you're having?
Protip: it's scheduled to be called “a baby”. ;)
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Are you going to find out what you're having?
Yes. The 20 week scan is scheduled for just before Christmas, so it's possible we'll find out then.
I feel as if this question might land me in hot water with the "not just boys and girls" police.
The trans thread is that way :many_symbols_joke: =)
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@Lorne_Kates said:
8 weeks 5 days
That's an early scan. We didn't have our first until 12 weeks (standard in the UK).
Almost 21 weeks now, and we know what it is. The hardest part for me is stopping my wife from doing too much, and making sure she takes care of s herself
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The hardest part for me is stopping my wife from doing too much, and making sure she takes care of s herself
Yes - take care of the basics well and thoroughly.
Unless your wife is contemplating a career change into the SAS (or there are reasons - then I will mind my own business) "doing too much" shouldn't be a problem - most folks go too far the other way.
Beware of the final stage of "doing too much" - the "nesting" instinct is real.
My wife decided to replace our toilet on B-Day-minus-5.
Good luck.
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the "nesting" instinct is real
QFT.
At least make her wear a gasmask when she decides to re-paint the kid's bedroom.
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It has an emoticon as a heart?
That way if it ever needs a heart transplant, it can get on the Emoji waiting list.
That's an early scan. We didn't have our first until 12 weeks (standard in the UK).
IVF, plus high-risk (due to miscarriage at 17 weeks previously). It's also to monitor her-- make sure the embryo implanted properly and in the right place, that there's no cysts on her ovaries from the medication, etc.
We have a 12 and 20 week scan booked, plus there will be monitoring appointments in between. The doctor is keeping a very close eye for any sign of infection.
Almost 21 weeks now, and we know what it is.
Are you telling people, or telling them a practiced line to make them mind their own business? =)
Unless your wife is contemplating a career change into the SAS (or there are reasons - then I will mind my own business) "doing too much" shouldn't be a problem - most folks go too far the other way.
Yup. Our fertility specialist-- who errs on the extreme side of caution-- has said "realistically, you could probably go trampolining and it won't change anything. But do be careful, just take it easy, no high impact exercises". My wife was on bed rest for the 48 hours after the IVF. The doctor even admitted it was mostly psychological. If the IVF doesn't take (50% success rate, I believe)-- they don't want the mother obsessing over "but what if I just didn't walk up that flight of stairs?!"
At least make her wear a gasmask when she decides to re-paint the kid's bedroom.
+1
A good dust/particle/fumes one is only, like, $20.
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@Lorne_Kates said:
telling them a practiced line to make them mind their own business
This. Although a gendered pronoun does occasionally slip out. Worse is when the name we've chosen gets overheard, because you just know people are judging you over that particular choice
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Judge you now, judge you later...
The "we want to be surprised" people never made sense to me. It's going to be a surprise when you learn it no matter when that is. There's enough going on when the kid is born. Don't need any extra excitement. Let's spread that out a bit.
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The "we want to be surprised" people never made sense to me.
A lot of it seems to be a generational thing. Far more older people, who had babies when you couldn't reliably tell, have opinions from respectful disagreement to outright disgust (the baby's great grandma insisted we didn't tell her before the fact), but people closer to my age tend to ask "do you know what you're having yet?"
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Interesting. I've known a lot of people (younger) than me who didn't want to know. My parents / grandparents always thought it was awesome that you could find out these days. My mom found out with my baby brother when she had an amniocentesis (high risk pregnancy due to her age at the time), but she had to find out the old fashioned way with the rest of us.
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Interesting. I've known a lot of people (younger) than me who didn't want to know.
I think it depends on whether you're going to do anything with the information...
If you're in the (yea I've forgotten all the pricey-baby brand stuff I used to know!! ) high-faluttin' crowd who's decorating the "nursery" in the right colors with color coordinated toys and curtains... then you want to know.
If you're going out and buying things in green and yellow... hah! take that, Madison Avenue!.... then the waiting isn't a problem.
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If you're going out and buying things in green and yellow... hah! take that, Madison Avenue!.... then the waiting isn't a problem.
We're staying quite gender neutral (my wife had a strong feeling that it was one sex which turned out to be wrong. We haven't had to change any plans) and always agreed we wanted to know
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But if you don't find out, how else will you blow hundreds or thousands of dollar on a self-congratulatory "gender reveal" party, were you waste money getting a baker to bake a secret color cake and covering it in a neutral color fondant-- and then you can get everyone to buy you presents and hire a professional photographer to capture your reaction and...
Filed under: From the "I avoid my family for more reasons than just the causal racism..." department
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always agreed we wanted to know
is a to success ;)
We agreed we didn't... which doubled the fun of making lists of absurd baby names.
Sometimes I still wish we had stuck with "James Tiberius", but it was not to be**.
** "Over my dead body" were her exact words, if I recall.³
³ Actually, my wife would have been cool with it, but it sounded stoopid.
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@Lorne_Kates said:
and then you can get everyone to buy you presents and hire a professional
Wow, he even trolls to get us to send him disco-booty™.
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(Since you and others off bashing and being bashed elsewhere...)
While you were away... back at stately Initrode-Manor.... HeWontBeNamed got all sentimental about the bugs that were found in his major software project
...and fired off, what was it, 100 of paypal bucks that was distributed to various TDWTFers comrades who, um, "Collaborated" on finding the bugs. Their spymaster bought and distributed mugs to the worst offenders.
This gift was referred to as Disco-Meta-Booty...
You are now up to speed, I think.
Filed under: I suppose you were actually trolling for -booty...
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I believe it was $200 total. $50 to @PJH (as an Amazon gift card or something) and $150 to be spread among others.
https://what.thedailywtf.com/t/discourse-metabooty/7964?u=boomzilla
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Ah. I approximated it as 5 x Mug = ~$100.
And forgot about @PJH...
Filed under: an actual, yellow, emoji sad face wouldn't be the end of the world, would it?...
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You, sir, are an enabler.
He trolls. You respond.
Filed under: this is why we can't have nice things
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You, sir, are an enabler.
He trolls. You respond.
That is not true ... I don't respond ... I troll along.
this is why we can't have nice things
I thought that Discourse was to blame for that
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Why is there someone dressed as a ST:TOS science officer pretending to face-fuck the audience?
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@Lorne_Kates said:
Why is there someone dressed as a ST:TOS science officer pretending to face-fuck the audience?
Clothing designers are pervs.
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@Lorne_Kates said:
Why is there someone dressed as a ST:TOS science officer pretending to face-fuck the audience?
Clothinglingerie designers are pervs.I blame Victoria! Damn girl can't keep a secret.
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can't keep a secret.
That's the last thing I'm thinking about when "casually browsing" her website though.
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What? You tell the other side of the bed that you like to browse a lingerie site dressed only in your own undies when she's not home?
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What? You tell the other side of the bed that you like to browse a lingerie site dressed only in your own undies when she's not home?
I'm sure she'd prefer that to me browsing a lingerie website dressed only in her undies.
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only in her undies.
so that are hypothetical undies too, like commando style? or hypothetically hers, like you bought them 'for her' but you wear them yourself?
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like you bought them 'for her'
Let's face it, no man really buys his better half new undies for her.
EDIT: That was supposed to sound a lot less like the man wears them than it does
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That was supposed to sound a lot less like the man wears them than it does
I see my work her is done ...
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@loopback0 said:
That was supposed to sound a lot less like the man wears them than it does
I see my work her is done ...
Freudian slip?
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An accalia'd slip
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The "we want to be surprised" people never made sense to me. It's going to be a surprise when you learn it no matter when that is. There's enough going on when the kid is born. Don't need any extra excitement. Let's spread that out a bit.
We were "we want to be surprised" people for both of ours. It was an amazing part of the birth an we wouldn't have had it any other way.
For us it was a bit (but only a bit) like the difference between someone telling you in October that you're getting a PS4 for Christmas (SURPRISE!) and you opening it on December 25.
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We were "we want to be surprised" people for both of ours.
As were we for our three. Like @ijij said upthread, unless you're going to decorate or buy clothes based on it, there's no real need to know ahead of time, so you can find out or not as you please. There've been cases among my near relatives where one partner knew ahead of time and the other didn't, which must have been interesting to manage.