@wharrgarbl said in The official unperson thread:
Imagine you're not into BDSM and you invited the wrong pervert that really loves it. Both would be disappointed.
If that mismatch occurred and conversation and consent was not a part of the prefestivities discussion then the pervert who was into BDSM was not a pervert but a perverted asshole.
so they already don't fall into the right category to be invited, and again it's not because of the perversity but rather the assholishness