:baby_symbol: Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit
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The UK began its lockdown on 13th March so it was definitely not necessarily 8th March.
Thing is, I could easily imagine myself doing this, just out of that โyou asked me what I do and I should reflexively ask about you because thatโs polite to exchangeโ mentality.
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@Arantor said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
The UK began its lockdown on 13th March so it was definitely not necessarily 8th March.
Yeah, that's when shit started hitting the fan around here, too.
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@boomzilla I flew from TX to CA on 13 March and drove the moving truck back to TX the following week, leaving somewhere around Thursday. I think we were supposed to be locked-down at that point but weren't really. Motels, grocery stores, etc., were still open. We got back to TX on Monday of the following week, 23 March, and IIRC that's when the SIP orders went into effect here, although "essential" services, including (fortunately, because I didn't have a refrigerator) appliance delivery, were still open. Not, however, government offices like vehicle registration and driver's license.
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@Arantor said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
The UK began its lockdown on 13th March so it was definitely not necessarily 8th March.
Lockdown was the 23rd. There might have been things like social distancing sooner but not lockdown.
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@HardwareGeek I remember that I was scheduled to officiate at a karate tournament on the 14th but that got canceled. And then over the weekend the schools shut down. And things kind of gradually shut down more over the next few weeks but it all really started at the end of that week.
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@loopback0 oh thatโs right, my company locked down on 13th but it wasnโt official for another week + weekend.
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So our oldest's robotics team made it to the world finals and they had a meeting about it tonight and they're explaining the logistics of the trip to Dallas and it all sounded horrible.
"The hotel bill for the trip will be ~$25,000 and that is *the cheapest hotel that we could find."
And:
"Google Maps shows it as a 14-15 hour drive there so parents may want to think about teaming up to share the drive."
And all kinds of other things. Then I have to be the asshole shitlord that when they ask for questions I ask if we could just book our own accommodations and I got called out for not signing up on the drive sheet because there is no fucking way I am staying in the cheapest hotel that they can find where there will be hundreds of other kids and there is also no fucking way that I would drive 15 goddamn hours with my own kids....let alone anyone else's.
It paired well with pre- times when they were fundraising for robotics and my kid came home with candy bars that they were supposed to sell and I just bought them all myself and dropped them off at client locations for them to have.
I will never be a PTO dad.
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@Polygeekery said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
"The hotel bill for the trip will be ~$25,000 and that is *the cheapest hotel that we could find."
What, is this a 5 month event?
Is the trip organizer getting hookers and blow in her hotel room every night?
Did they book it through Biden Travel International and have to give the big guy his 10,000%?
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@izzion said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
What, is this a 5 month event?
Six teams in total are going. Kids, plus parents, for ~3-4 nights per. The overall event is 5 days. Three days for middle school, three day for elementary, overlap on Wednesday. Several of the team captains have to drive down a day or two early with supplies.
I am going to take a WAG at it being ~72 people for an average stay of 4 days which would put the hotel bill at ~$86.80 per person per night. Doesn't seem unreasonable.
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@Polygeekery said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
I am going to take a WAG at it being ~72 people for an average stay of 4 days which would put the hotel bill at ~$86.80 per person per night.
Ah, splitting that among 72 people is perfectly reasonable. However, the way you phrased it in your earlier post made it seem like that was the per-person tab.
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So... I've been bicycling lately. And now I have a 4-month-old. Is it dumb to baby-wear while biking? I'm planning on sticking to the main roads, for what it's worth, rather than the biking trails in the wilderness out back.
I plan on getting a little baby helmet, for what it's worth. I'm not sure it's worth much, but it beats the alternative!
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@PotatoEngineer
Four months is probably a little too young, but when you do, do this
not this
The high center of gravity of adding the seat can make your ride less stable, especially when the kid gets a little bigger and starts flopping his/her weight around because he/she really doesn't want to be in there. And some of the seats are horrible from a safety perspective, getting in your way and offering zero protection to the kid in case of a crash. That one looks pretty decent, for that type of seat, but there are some that aren't even fit for baby Hitler.
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@HardwareGeek said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@PotatoEngineer
The high center of gravity of adding the seat can make your ride less stable, especially when the kid gets a little bigger and starts flopping his/her weight around because he/she really doesn't want to be in there. And some of the seats are horrible from a safety perspective, getting in your way and offering zero protection to the kid in case of a crash. That one looks pretty decent, for that type of seat, but there are some that aren't even fit for baby Hitler.Well, I was thinking of this:
Not the safest thing, but I'm competent at riding and am unlikely to fall.
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@PotatoEngineer I have experience with that type of carrier for other activities (general walking around, dancing) but not biking. I don't think I'd feel comfortable with a baby in that sort of carrier on a bike, but that's just my gut feeling; I don't have any solid basis.
In any case, definitely get the helmet. And you probably need to wait a few more months. IIRC, 6 months is the age they can generally support the weight of their own head reliably; probably add another couple of months to hold up their head with the extra weight of a helmet.
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@PotatoEngineer said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
So... I've been bicycling lately. And now I have a 4-month-old. Is it dumb to baby-wear while biking? I'm planning on sticking to the main roads, for what it's worth, rather than the biking trails in the wilderness out back.
I plan on getting a little baby helmet, for what it's worth. I'm not sure it's worth much, but it beats the alternative!
My husband had something like this:
And we took her through NYC traffic.
Now that she is older we have a trailer like @HardwareGeek mentioned or a tube to connect her bike to my husband's bike. In which case her pedaling does make a difference (relative to her weight) and it is so cute when she would pedal so fast to "help."
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@HardwareGeek said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@PotatoEngineer
Four months is probably a little too young, but when you do, do this
Okay, I'll be safe. I mean, this certainly looks safe:
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@HardwareGeek said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
In any case, definitely get the helmet. And you probably need to wait a few more months. IIRC, 6 months is the age they can generally support the weight of their own head reliably; probably add another couple of months to hold up their head with the extra weight of a helmet.
She's holding her head up fine, though she's not reliably rolling over in either direction yet. Or sitting up. But head control? She's got that.
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@PotatoEngineer said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
So... I've been bicycling lately. And now I have a 4-month-old. Is it dumb to baby-wear while biking? I'm planning on sticking to the main roads, for what it's worth, rather than the biking trails in the wilderness out back.
I plan on getting a little baby helmet, for what it's worth. I'm not sure it's worth much, but it beats the alternative!
As a father of 5 young boys, my own rule-of-thumb for deciding whether to do something like this is to ask, "What if something does go wrong?"
If on the rare chance you do fall off your bike, will your daughter be protected?
If she were mine, I wouldn't want to crush her by falling on top of her, so a wearable carrier would be a hard no.
A bicycle baby seat might be more acceptable โ depending on its construction, sturdiness, support for the child, and protection from all directions โ but the trailer would be my own preferred way to bring an infant along on a bike ride.
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@PotatoEngineer said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@HardwareGeek said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
In any case, definitely get the helmet. And you probably need to wait a few more months. IIRC, 6 months is the age they can generally support the weight of their own head reliably; probably add another couple of months to hold up their head with the extra weight of a helmet.
She's holding her head up fine, though she's not reliably rolling over in either direction yet. Or sitting up. But head control? She's got that.
While you're holding her or just walking around...
But what about with the extra forces due to the more abrupt bicycle accelerations and decelerations? My youngest son is ~5 months, and he wouldn't be able to hold his own head steady if I were to run while carrying him.
I occasionally (gently!) toss him up in the air and catch him again (as most fathers are wont to do), but I always make sure that I'm either catching his head and shoulders together as he's laying back on my hands, or throwing and catching him under his arms with his head and spine vertical or leaning slightly forward so it doesn't whiplash in any direction. And either way, I always catch him with follow-through so the deceleration is spread out as much as possible.
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@PotatoEngineer said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
Well, I was thinking of this:
Not the safest thing, but I'm competent at riding and am unlikely to fall.
It's not the falling that I'd be worried about. More the random car stopping right in your path so suddenly that there's no way to avoid crashing straight to the side of it. In that case, the baby will be between you and your steering bar, pressed by the side of the car.
(Cars used just as an example. Other sudden obstacles happen also. Like a moose or a deer...)
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@acrow said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
(Cars used just as an example. Other sudden obstacles happen also. Like a moose or a deer...)
A moose once bit my sister.
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@acrow said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@PotatoEngineer said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
Well, I was thinking of this:
Not the safest thing, but I'm competent at riding and am unlikely to fall.
It's not the falling that I'd be worried about. More the random car stopping right in your path so suddenly that there's no way to avoid crashing straight to the side of it. In that case, the baby will be between you and your steering bar, pressed by the side of the car.
(Cars used just as an example. Other sudden obstacles happen also. Like a moose or a deer...)
While you normally could react to the obstacle, the extra weight will lengthen your reaction time.
Also it changes your center of gravity, the front facing seat does too but not to the same extent.
I like the trailer, and we've taken both my daughter and my dog at the same time. What I don't like is how low it is for visibility.
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Toddler did some drawing in my computer screen, with a red colored pencil. It was unexpectedly easy to clean with a wet towel
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@sockpuppet7 said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
Toddler did some drawing in my computer screen, with a red colored pencil. It was unexpectedly easy to clean with a wet towel
Had that happen. Baby wipes work too.
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@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@sockpuppet7 said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
Toddler did some drawing in my computer screen, with a red colored pencil. It was unexpectedly easy to clean with a wet towel
Had that happen. Baby wipes work too.
Well, yeah, but baby wipes work for everything: ink, dust, crap, dry snot, marines, firearms.... I even hear that you can clean a baby's bottom after a poo with them!
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@acrow said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
Other sudden obstacles happen also. Like a moose or a deer...
Not much chance of hitting a moose in the Netherlands (where the photograph was taken). Hitting a pedestrian is much more likely.
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@nerd4sale Deer are possible though, in places. Or random crap people left on the road (with or without license plate).
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They always tell us to observe the toddler's stool for odd colors. But apparently mustard yellow, bright iridescent green, olive, ultramarine, or grey colored shit, or even clear but thick excretion with some red hue here and there (oddly reminiscent of very thin strawberry jam) are not causes for concern. I've shown the doc photos of at least half a dozen different odd-colored (in my eyes) stools. Fine. The next time I take one of the kids to see a doctor, I'm going to take a damn color chart with me. Let him show me exactly which colors I should be concerned about then.
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@acrow said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
mustard yellow, bright iridescent green, olive, ultramarine, or grey colored shit
Good news: Crayons (at least in the US) are required to be non-toxic.
Bad news: If he keeps eating them, he could grow up to have a career in the United States Marine Corps.
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@acrow said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
exactly which colors I should be concerned about
Bright red (a lot of fresh blood from the lower gastrointestinal tract) or black (a lot of old blood from the upper gastrointestinal tract) are the really big ones.
You've looked at your own, right? And there's a variety of colors based on what you've recently eaten? If the kid is eating the same stuff you are, the stools should be approximately the same color(s), too. Mustard yellow comes from mother's milk, so that should be the most common color if Little One is being breastfed. Other colors can probably mostly be correlated with food colorings in whatever foods the baby is eating.
Edit: I suppose I should also note that black is also common (and perfectly fine) for the first few days after birth, as the baby eliminates meconium from the digestive system.
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@djls45 said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
I suppose I should also note that black is also common (and perfectly fine) for the first few days after birth, as the baby eliminates meconium from the digestive system.
Also if they've been drinking gin.
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@nerd4sale said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
Not much chance of hitting a moose in the Netherlands
No, really. She was, to be fair, carving her initials on the moose with an interspace toothbrush.
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@HardwareGeek said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@acrow said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
mustard yellow, bright iridescent green, olive, ultramarine, or grey colored shit
Good news: Crayons (at least in the US) are required to be non-toxic.
Bad news: If he keeps eating them, he could grow up to have a career in the United States Marine Corps.
We moved from crayons to soft pens and a whiteboard some time ago.
And I'm pretty sure he didn't eat any before then either. ...And at the very least, there could not have been more than one or two greens in a pack of 16 colors.
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@acrow said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
I'm pretty sure he didn't eat any before then either.
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@djls45 Our youngest is now 2 years old, so milk isn't an issue anymore. It's more the greens and greys now.
There's definitely a correlation between fever and green poo. I haven't looked my own that closely, but I'm pretty sure mine doesn't do the same.
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@acrow said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@sockpuppet7 said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
Toddler did some drawing in my computer screen, with a red colored pencil. It was unexpectedly easy to clean with a wet towel
Had that happen. Baby wipes work too.
Well, yeah, but baby wipes work for everything: ink, dust, crap, dry snot, marines, firearms.... I even hear that you can clean a baby's bottom after a poo with them!
Almost as good as WD-40 and duct tape.
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@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@acrow said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@sockpuppet7 said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
Toddler did some drawing in my computer screen, with a red colored pencil. It was unexpectedly easy to clean with a wet towel
Had that happen. Baby wipes work too.
Well, yeah, but baby wipes work for everything: ink, dust, crap, dry snot, marines, firearms.... I even hear that you can clean a baby's bottom after a poo with them!
Almost as good as WD-40 and duct tape.
Just don't apply the duct tape to the backside.
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@boomzilla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
The pacing of movies has definitely accelerated over the last 30 years; anyone who's grown up on the more modern stuff will find older things sluggish.
Also: Star Wars Original Trilogy hasn't aged as well as I wish it did. It's still fantastic, but I have to admit that a goodly part of it is the nostalgia filter.
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@izzion said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
That's pretty damn impressive, but 18-year-olds don't suddenly become mature overnight. I'm torn between "it's a good thing that they weren't on social media when they were more impulsive" and "they're not that much less impulsive at 18, and now they don't have the benefit of any of your guidance".
(Edit: not that I had any guidance about this kind of thing growing up, but as a Xennial, social media didn't get really bad until I was pretty close to 18 anyway. I was on a few BBSs, but never on newsgroups.)
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@boomzilla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@HardwareGeek I remember that I was scheduled to officiate at a karate tournament on the 14th but that got canceled. And then over the weekend the schools shut down. And things kind of gradually shut down more over the next few weeks but it all really started at the end of that week.
My daughter had a dentist appointment Friday of that week (pediatic dentist only available on Fridays). We tried to move it up, but two weeks before she would miss a field trip. So me moved up one week which I was thinking what's the point of one week.
This time that one week make a huge difference whether or not he appointment was cancelled.
When they reopened my daughter was a month or so beyond the standard 6 months.
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@izzion said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@acrow said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@sockpuppet7 said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
Toddler did some drawing in my computer screen, with a red colored pencil. It was unexpectedly easy to clean with a wet towel
Had that happen. Baby wipes work too.
Well, yeah, but baby wipes work for everything: ink, dust, crap, dry snot, marines, firearms.... I even hear that you can clean a baby's bottom after a poo with them!
Almost as good as WD-40 and duct tape.
Just don't apply the duct tape to the backside.
Instructions unclear: Applied WD-40 to all sides.
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@PotatoEngineer said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@boomzilla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
The pacing of movies has definitely accelerated over the last 30 years; anyone who's grown up on the more modern stuff will find older things sluggish.
Also: Star Wars Original Trilogy hasn't aged as well as I wish it did. It's still fantastic, but I have to admit that a goodly part of it is the nostalgia filter.
I think that's one of the reasons I don't have the patience to re-watch them. I'm referencing my post the funny thread where I said I hate unnecessary repetition.
I can probably re-watch some 80s movies again IF I hadn't seen them since the 80s or early 90s.
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@PotatoEngineer and yet, Star Wars itself clocks in at 2 hours, shorter than many films today. Though I would agree the rules of pacing have changed, modern films seem to be more about things happening constantly without the breaks older films put in to give the audience a moment.
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@Arantor The breaks were needed to absorb the story, something that modern films don't really have anymore.
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@acrow I think you may be onto something with that.
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@acrow said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Arantor The breaks were needed to absorb the story, something that modern films don't really have anymore.
No time for story, weโve got explosions to film!!!11
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@izzion you are Michael Bay and I claim my ยฃ5.
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@acrow this post is just a break for you to absorve this thread