:baby_symbol: Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit
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@Polygeekery said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
The best thing about that is how little alcohol gets into breastmilk.
If you drank an LD50 amount of alcohol your blood would be about 0.5% alcohol, the sort of level in alcohol free beers. Breastmilk is made from blood but the process is pretty good at filtering things out so the level would be even lower than that
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@Jaloopa said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Polygeekery said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
The best thing about that is how little alcohol gets into breastmilk.
If you drank an LD50 amount of alcohol your blood would be about 0.5% alcohol, the sort of level in alcohol free beers. Breastmilk is made from blood but the process is pretty good at filtering things out so the level would be even lower than that
I had a doctor explain after drinking to intoxication the milk has the same amount of alcohol as orange juice.
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My wife likes to keep me up to date on the best of the conversations she has with our two year old while I'm at work. Here's today's
mummy, do you have a vulva?
Yes darling
Can I see it?
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@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
I had a doctor explain after drinking to intoxication
I'd avoid a doctor that did that.
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@HardwareGeek said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
I had a doctor explain after drinking to intoxication
I'd avoid a doctor that did that.
I wouldn't let him use the sharp instruments.
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@boomzilla Oh my
God,
What's with the
line breaks in that
image?
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@Jaloopa sleep deprivation?
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Actually, a buddy and I did go to war with several wasp nests in my back yard when I was about 6. We killed 'em all and didn't get a single sting that day.
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@boomzilla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
a buddy and I did go to war with several wasp nests in my back yard when I was about 6. We killed 'em all and didn't get a single sting that day.
2/10 needs more rambling and
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Parenting Boy Scout Edition (always be prepared)
Today we went to the beach by the subway as New Yorkers do. This is a fairly long train ride, minimum 90 minutes and usually closer to 2 hours plus walking 5 blocks on either end.
As we are leaving the beach, I ask if my 5 yo has to go potty and try and encourage her to at least try.
Nope. She doesn't have to go.
About half-way through the trip home she says she has to go potty. Of course, she does.
Husband and I look at each other. I mention I have wee-wee pads (I started carrying them regularly when 5 yo would get car sick), if it came to that.
He's like, "we have a bucket" (we were at the beach).
Even more fortuitous was the train we were on AND where we were sitting was perfect. We were also a large group with lots of stuff.
I put a wee pad on floor, husband puts the bucket down and helped her assume the position and let her do her business.
Between seats, us, and our stuff, no one else knew what was doing unless they were paying an inappropriately close attention to us.
Husband thinks to take the wee wee pad and put the absorbent side down into the bucket with the remainder trailing out to protect against spillage until it can be safely dumped.
Crisis averted!!
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This works well with the thread title.
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@boomzilla #{a10160b0-7f10-4ed3-bd68-fe1faeea4094} dad
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So we went to our first parent event since school started. And some of the parents are....shall we say...intense.
This is a charter school and they are very big on timeliness. In order to provide incentives for timeliness (carrot rather than stick) kids who are early get an entry in in a raffle or other little special thing.
This one mother, complains that while she wants to get her son in early, she just can't always manage it and how it is not fair and her special snowflake may be disappointed.
Good lord woman, your kid doesn't always get the prize.
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@Karla
Pretty sure there's an affirmative defense for assault against a parent that's that dumb.
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@izzion said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla
Pretty sure there's an affirmative defense for assault against a parent that's that dumb.I sure hope so.
This same parent also managed to say her son was gifted in an exchange with another parent who was concerned about upcoming quizzes. She also asked the teacher about recent violence in the neighborhood (which she had previously posted about in the school's FB page).
The other parent concerned with the quizzes mentioned using flash cards with her kid. This is fucking kindergarten!!!
I have every expectation that my daughter is brilliant...but that brilliance will come at whatever pace it comes.
This is full day kindergarten, she has about 20 minutes of homework (if it were more than that, I would push back), plus reading (being read to). The rest of her time is hers. She has important coloring and house-building to do.
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@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
Good lord woman, your kid doesn't always get the prize.
She must be one of those people who got participation ribbons when growing up...
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@dcon said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
Good lord woman, your kid doesn't always get the prize.
She must be one of those people who got participation ribbons when growing up...
I put her in more of a Little League parent...always pushing to be the best at the exclusion of all else.
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@Karla Living vicariously through their children. I see that a lot. Parent's convinced the kid is the next Einstein/Babe Ruth/etc. Kid's miserable trying to "measure up" and really wants to do other things (draw/write instead of STEM, math instead of baseball, etc).
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@Benjamin-Hall said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla Living vicariously through their children. I see that a lot. Parent's convinced the kid is the next Einstein/Babe Ruth/etc. Kid's miserable trying to "measure up" and really wants to do other things (draw/write instead of STEM, math instead of baseball, etc).
Yeah, I would love for her to follow in my (some of) my footsteps. But mostly right now, I just want her to have fun. I want her to think learning is fun.
With a full day of school, her day is already so structured, I don't want to add to that.
School also has after-school programs--I didn't even consider signing her up as she is still getting used to not having a nap during the day.
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@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
kindergarten, she has about 20 minutes of homework
Is that really a normal thing??? Over here, there is constant recrimination (from all sides, not just the parents or children) that the school system sets too much homework, and I think that officially they're not supposed to have any homework up to (including) the first few years of primary school (i.e. probably around 8-9 yo, I think? I'm not really following that closely, it's more what I hear other people saying...).
Homework for anything below primary school (i.e. the year at the end of which you're supposed to know how to read/write/count, whatever you call it), I've absolutely never heard of.
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@remi said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
kindergarten, she has about 20 minutes of homework
Is that really a normal thing??? Over here, there is constant recrimination (from all sides, not just the parents or children) that the school system sets too much homework, and I think that officially they're not supposed to have any homework up to (including) the first few years of primary school (i.e. probably around 8-9 yo, I think? I'm not really following that closely, it's more what I hear other people saying...).
Homework for anything below primary school (i.e. the year at the end of which you're supposed to know how to read/write/count, whatever you call it), I've absolutely never heard of.
I would prefer no homework. Which is why I don't make a big deal HOW she does it or if she does extra drawing on the paper. This parent above, also was concerned SHE didn't understand the directions precisely and couldn't direct her son to do the homework perfectly.
It is mostly tracing/copying letters, numbers, and simple 1 - 3 letter words that they are learning in class, counting objects and writing the number.
But yes this has been a thing for since my big kids were in kindergarten. I am not a fan. I didn't get required homework until 4th grade and I asked for homework in 3rd grade.
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"No more dreaded glares from using toddler leashes!"
Fuck those stupid people. Those leashes are the best things ever. I remember hooking my son to a beltloop when we traveled by air, so I had both hands free to carry stuff and he couldn't get away.
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@remi said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
kindergarten, she has about 20 minutes of homework
Is that really a normal thing??? Over here, there is constant recrimination (from all sides, not just the parents or children) that the school system sets too much homework, and I think that officially they're not supposed to have any homework up to (including) the first few years of primary school (i.e. probably around 8-9 yo, I think? I'm not really following that closely, it's more what I hear other people saying...).
Homework for anything below primary school (i.e. the year at the end of which you're supposed to know how to read/write/count, whatever you call it), I've absolutely never heard of.
It's a thing. My son had ~40 minutes of homework a night in kindergarten. 20 minutes of written homework and expected to do 20 minutes of reading.
Now he is in first grade and he has basically no homework, because his teacher this year sucks.
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@Polygeekery said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
My son had ~40 minutes of homework a night in kindergarten. 20 minutes of written homework and expected to do 20 minutes of reading.
Now that I think about it he also had homework in preschool. For a while anyway. Until myself and another mother put the end to that bit of nonsense, which is kind of an amusing story if anyone wants to hear.
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@boomzilla My first thought on that was: great, now you're going to them lifelong joint problems. Ok, I don't know much about kids - but I do know I don't jump my dogs at full height until their growth plates have closed. I can't imagine growing bodies are that different...
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@Polygeekery said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@remi said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
kindergarten, she has about 20 minutes of homework
Is that really a normal thing??? Over here, there is constant recrimination (from all sides, not just the parents or children) that the school system sets too much homework, and I think that officially they're not supposed to have any homework up to (including) the first few years of primary school (i.e. probably around 8-9 yo, I think? I'm not really following that closely, it's more what I hear other people saying...).
Homework for anything below primary school (i.e. the year at the end of which you're supposed to know how to read/write/count, whatever you call it), I've absolutely never heard of.
It's a thing. My son had ~40 minutes of homework a night in kindergarten. 20 minutes of written homework and expected to do 20 minutes of reading.
Now he is in first grade and he has basically no homework, because his teacher this year sucks.
I don't really count the reading. We would read to her regardless.
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@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
I don't really count the reading. We would read to her regardless.
Likewise. But it is listed as part of his homework so I included it.
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@Polygeekery said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Polygeekery said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
My son had ~40 minutes of homework a night in kindergarten. 20 minutes of written homework and expected to do 20 minutes of reading.
Now that I think about it he also had homework in preschool. For a while anyway. Until myself and another mother put the end to that bit of nonsense, which is kind of an amusing story if anyone wants to hear.
Technically, my daughter did too. It was reading and we were supposed to log the book and her assessment of it. We never did because IT WAS FUCKING PRESCHOOL!!!!!1111ELEVEN
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@Polygeekery said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
kind of an amusing story if anyone wants to hear.
Obvs.
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My poor daughter. Now the schools been in session for 6 weeks they are "grading" their behavior with colors blue, green, yellow, orange, red. Blue being the best and everyone starts the morning and the afternoon on blue.
My daughter has stayed on blue and she comes home bragging. We obviously tell her she is doing a great job.
Then we look at her homework this morning and there are greens and a yellow. She gets very upset that she has stay on blue. We tell her it's ok, we don't expect perfect behavior and she (and us) are still getting used to the schedule.
I email the teacher asking for clarification so we can explain better to her.
Well my daughter and another student have the same name...they sent home the other girl's colors to us.
We have some making up to do.
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@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
because IT WAS FUCKING PRESCHOOL!!!!!1111ELEVEN
You know, that might be a little young to start them out...
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@izzion said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
because IT WAS FUCKING PRESCHOOL!!!!!1111ELEVEN
You know, that might be a little young to start them out...
She has used the word "fucking" correctly in a sentence. We were so proud.
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@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
She has used the word "fucking" correctly in a sentence. We were so proud.
Is there actually a wrong way? It's a very versatile word.
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@boomzilla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
She has used the word "fucking" correctly in a sentence. We were so proud.
Is there actually a wrong way? It's a very versatile word.
Fucking A.
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@Karla I don't know why the fuck they think the colors are useful. Yes, it's totally the specific letters which cause the anxiety issues and not the existence of a performance scale in the first place.
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@pie_flavor said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla I don't know why the fuck they think the colors are useful. Yes, it's totally the specific letters which cause the anxiety issues and not the existence of a performance scale in the first place.
This is for their behavior and I suspect none of the kids are familiar with a letter performance scale.
What would be an alternative?
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@Karla A B C D F.
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@pie_flavor said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla A B C D F.
You're missing an
E
there.
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@Rhywden
I would rate that scale a G
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@pie_flavor said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla A B C D F.
Maybe I am misunderstanding your point. I thought you were saying both colors and letters are anxiety inducing. So equivalent. I was asking what is the alternative if you didn't use either.
This is kindergarten...they've never experienced letter grades. The colors is a simple visual representation.
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@Rhywden said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@pie_flavor said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla A B C D F.
You're missing an
E
there.I shortly when to a school district that used E instead of F. Seriously it makes more sense. None of the other letter grades is an initial of a word, why would one be?
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@Karla
Because it takes special effort to fail in the American school system, so they should get a special letter grade
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@izzion said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla
Because it takes special effort to fail in the American school system, so they should get a special letter gradeLOL but that wasn't always the case...was it? WAS IT?
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@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@pie_flavor said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla A B C D F.
Maybe I am misunderstanding your point. I thought you were saying both colors and letters are anxiety inducing. So equivalent. I was asking what is the alternative if you didn't use either.
This is kindergarten...they've never experienced letter grades. The colors is a simple visual representation.
I'm not saying to get rid of it, I'm just saying it's dumb to use some different marker for the 5-point system because you think that letter grades are damaging.
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@pie_flavor said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@pie_flavor said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla A B C D F.
Maybe I am misunderstanding your point. I thought you were saying both colors and letters are anxiety inducing. So equivalent. I was asking what is the alternative if you didn't use either.
This is kindergarten...they've never experienced letter grades. The colors is a simple visual representation.
I'm not saying to get rid of it, I'm just saying it's dumb to use some different marker for the 5-point system because you think that letter grades are damaging.
I never said I thought letter grades were damaging and I don't think that has anything to do with the reason the school chose colors. It is a visual chart on the wall. Colors can be seen.