@cartman82 said:
Except he can't help coming off as a spoiled primadona who expected red carpet to be rolled out for him.
I need an example of him being spoiled. Recruitment people need to learn people skills, otherwise people like me, who've seen this bullshit before, stop bothering to be loyal after 4-odd redundancies and numerous disparaging rejections in the very moment it takes longer to recruit us than it does for us to find work.
I realise that sounds like an ultimatum, and it is! Largely because the only way to negotiate seems to be with ultimatums, but for some reason nobody saw coming the day when the fully-grown developer has somebody to go to other than you.
He's expecting to be shown some respect. The interview will be at this time, for this job at this location. Don't waste our time and we won't waste yours. That's the deal. That's civility.
Failure to follow this basic social protocol is the reason I have become mercenary in my career, such that my last manager complained when I didn't negotiate with him before I handed in my notice. I never had a chance to negotiate when I was being made redundant in previous jobs, what makes him think he's so entitled? For that matter, it says a lot about his ego that he can't read the sub-text that I didn't want to work for him.
There is an attitude that "this is the way things are". That's great, but everyone also needs to regard the way things should be, and we need to do that by not automatically assuming we deserve to be put above everyone else, and as far as I'm concerned, the kind of things he appears to be asking for are fair.
The only complaint I really have about the issues he's pointed out is that he didn't make it funnier.
@cartman82 said:
You walk down the street, you meet a jerk - you met a jerk. You meet 10 jerks - you're the jerk.
While generally a reliable model, the first 3 senior people I met when I started my career were ridiculously incompetent. All of them wanted to blame me for issues they had caused, and had their own unique methods of CYA:
- The director of the first company I worked for was poor at time management, and told me I was 'sloppy' as a result.
- The next guy I worked for basically said "you've got nowhere else to go" and paid me less than minimum wage. Then he tried to pay me in some kind of coupons. Then it was apparently my fault I couldn't afford to get to work.
- Then there was the guy who yelled at me for 15 minutes because he couldn't keep his own CRM up to date with the correct contact details.
The model you speak of was sufficient to hurt my self-esteem a lot at the time, but it turns out that the street I was walking down had hundreds of students and few employers. These backwater companies I had worked for had their pick of entry-level graduates, while they grew, shrank and blamed the devs in the process. I met 3 jerks because I was walking down jerk street, where all the jerks go because they've been chucked out of civilised society.
He points out the symptoms of might-makes-right philosophy, which is bad for our species, since "might" usually means "luckily got the big stick, which is not big enough to bat away the meteorite which will wipe us out".
In short, I think he has a point.