:baby_symbol: Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit
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@tharpa said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@masonwheeler said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
I never said I thought letter grades were damaging and I don't think that has anything to do with the reason the school chose colors. It is a visual chart on the wall. Colors can be seen.
BUT WHAT ABOUT TEH POOR DISADVANTAGED COLORBLIND KIDS? DISCRIMINATION!!!!
Usually they are boys, so no one cares.
I would bet that, on average, there are more girls who get blues for conduct than boys.
Me too. If I had a boy, my perspective of school may be very different.
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@tharpa said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@tharpa said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@pie_flavor said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@pie_flavor said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla A B C D F.
Maybe I am misunderstanding your point. I thought you were saying both colors and letters are anxiety inducing. So equivalent. I was asking what is the alternative if you didn't use either.
This is kindergarten...they've never experienced letter grades. The colors is a simple visual representation.
I'm not saying to get rid of it, I'm just saying it's dumb to use some different marker for the 5-point system because you think that letter grades are damaging.
I never said I thought letter grades were damaging and I don't think that has anything to do with the reason the school chose colors. It is a visual chart on the wall. Colors can be seen.
By everyone. Yeah, that's a whole lot better than keeping grades private.
It isn't their grade. It is a measure of their behavior at that moment.
Short-term behavior grades.
I don't think it unreasonable to be public. It makes consequences of bad behavior transparent.
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@boomzilla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
He's gotten in trouble for wearing shoes and walking on laundry that's on the floor in the past, so he's not completely brain dead, but it's far too much idiocy for me.
But has he also unpredictably gotten in trouble for taking his shoes off at seemingly random times?
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@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@tharpa said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@tharpa said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@pie_flavor said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@pie_flavor said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Karla A B C D F.
Maybe I am misunderstanding your point. I thought you were saying both colors and letters are anxiety inducing. So equivalent. I was asking what is the alternative if you didn't use either.
This is kindergarten...they've never experienced letter grades. The colors is a simple visual representation.
I'm not saying to get rid of it, I'm just saying it's dumb to use some different marker for the 5-point system because you think that letter grades are damaging.
I never said I thought letter grades were damaging and I don't think that has anything to do with the reason the school chose colors. It is a visual chart on the wall. Colors can be seen.
By everyone. Yeah, that's a whole lot better than keeping grades private.
It isn't their grade. It is a measure of their behavior at that moment.
Short-term behavior grades.
I don't think it unreasonable to be public. It makes consequences of bad behavior transparent.
And it's not like the kids don't like to compare grades anyways.
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@djls45 said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@boomzilla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
He's gotten in trouble for wearing shoes and walking on laundry that's on the floor in the past, so he's not completely brain dead, but it's far too much idiocy for me.
But has he also unpredictably gotten in trouble for taking his shoes off at seemingly random times?
No.
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Start your kids young (1-3 years) with real (but small) tasks to prevent doing chores from becoming a chore when they're older.
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@djls45 said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
Start your kids young (1-3 years) with real (but small) tasks to prevent doing chores from becoming a chore when they're older.
Is that not how every family does it? My daughter loves to help and I'd rather give her something useful to do than busywork that just causes me more work
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@Jaloopa said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@djls45 said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
Start your kids young (1-3 years) with real (but small) tasks to prevent doing chores from becoming a chore when they're older.
Is that not how every family does it? My daughter loves to help and I'd rather give her something useful to do than busywork that just causes me more work
They should, but apparently a whole lot of people don't. The author states in the second article that she had to change basically everything she was doing with her daughter concerning housework. E.g. instead of doing the work herself while the girl slept so that they could have more playtime, she did stuff for herself during naptime and saved the chores to do together.
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@djls45 said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
Start your kids young (1-3 years) with real (but small) tasks to prevent doing chores from becoming a chore when they're older.
And then hope it works.
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@pie_flavor said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Polygeekery said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
What?
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@boomzilla I'd say the biggest issue with chores isn't that children don't want to do them, but more that they don't want to do them now (or whenever they should). Most chores aren't really that tedious and can even be made into something somewhat enjoyable, but it's being interrupted while you're doing something else (even if you could plan and do them at a better time, but children aren't very good at time planning!) that really makes them annoying. I don't think "starting early" will really change much about that.
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@remi kids do really well with routines. If you establish from early on that "when you get up, you clean up your room" (or whatever) and make that a very established thing they do, it becomes natural. If you're not consistent...heaven help you.
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@Benjamin-Hall Meh. Except the day they decide that playing with whatever toy fell in their hands is more fun than doing the chore, or they grow up and they have friends and they decide that going and chatting with them is more important, or... anything that happens with children, really.
I mean, I agree with you on the idea, but in practice, it's more like the whole mindset of how the family works everyday that make it work or not. Singling out a specific thing is like saying that, I don't know, using source control makes development easier. It's true, but there is so much more than just that...
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@remi said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Benjamin-Hall Meh. Except the day they decide that playing with whatever toy fell in their hands is more fun than doing the chore, or they grow up and they have friends and they decide that going and chatting with them is more important, or... anything that happens with children, really.
I mean, I agree with you on the idea, but in practice, it's more like the whole mindset of how the family works everyday that make it work or not. Singling out a specific thing is like saying that, I don't know, using source control makes development easier. It's true, but there is so much more than just that...
Oh certainly. The whole family has to buy in--kids have pretty good hypocrisy detectors. Everybody has to walk the walk. And it's not a guarantee, but it goes a long way to making it easier, especially in the younger years (up to about age 10, plus or minus). Teenagers are their own special breed, to be sure. Even then, starting habits young increases the chances they'll stick.
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@Benjamin-Hall Yes. Forming habits is important. Also, did you know that eating five meals a day was hobbit-forming?
(I blame irregularwebcomic.net for this one, and many more like it)
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@remi said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Benjamin-Hall Yes. Forming habits is important. Also, did you know that eating five meals a day was hobbit-forming?
No, I didn't because it's either six (book) or seven (movie).
Breakfast, second breakfast, elevenses, luncheon, afternoon tea, supper, dinner - from the movie.
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@Rhywden said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@remi said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Benjamin-Hall Yes. Forming habits is important. Also, did you know that eating five meals a day was hobbit-forming?
No, I didn't because it's either six (book) or seven (movie).
Breakfast, second breakfast, elevenses, luncheon, afternoon tea, supper, dinner - from the movie.
So only having 5 is the starter-hobbit. You have to build up your tolerance, after all.
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@Karla said in The Official Funny Stuff Threadâ„¢:
Concerning making kids behave, there are a few options:
- Psychologically torture the children into obedience (and have an on-going competition over who's the better manipulator).
- Physically abuse the children so that they fear engendering your wrath (then they'll try to avoid you whenever they can).
- Give up and just tell the kids you love them no matter what they do (and just let them make a mess of your, their, and others' lives).
- Teach (including physical discipline for correction with making-up to end each session) the children so that they respect authority and know the (achievable, firm, and consistent) boundaries you set (and by so doing you maintain a good relationship with them).
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Did you know that...?
Dr. Seuss's ABC's was designed to be able to be sung to the Alphabet Song.
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This morning I am in the kitchen making myself a cup of coffee and I hear our 3 year old get up and open his door. Lil' Dude has a way about him in the mornings. He opens his door like a SWAT team breaching a home. The door slams open to the stop and bounces back. He comes trundling down the hallway, blanket over his shoulder with very sleepy eyes. I say:
He stops in his tracks, looks up at me, furls his brow and very declaratively states:
"I no monkey. I'm people."
He then goes back about his way, grabs a bag of pepperoni and a glass of milk and goes to the living room to watch Paw Patrol.
Lil' Dude cracks me up.
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My wife shared this:
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@Polygeekery Cute. I'd want to have little moments like these with kids of my own someday and then I remember the not so glamorous parts of Parenthood you probably wouldn't post here.
Either way cute. Shit like this I imagine might brighten up a day just like that.
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@stillwater said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Polygeekery Cute. I'd want to have little moments like these with kids of my own someday and then I remember the not so glamorous parts of Parenthood you probably wouldn't post here.
Either way cute. Shit like this I imagine might brighten up a day just like that.
I have a heartwarming story.
My 5 yo daughter comes home late on Saturday from 'my in laws.'' ''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''Sh'e's over tir'ed and 'basically has 'a meltdown.
'Forgive th'e extra apostrophes my keyboard is haunted.
"She wants to go play in the li'ving room and her choices are climb in bed with me or go to bed.
"""""After about 2'''63rd time of '"'''''I wan't to play in the living room ' this is full on tears with the inhale.
''"I get a little heavy and say she has to choose. "She composes herself and says she doesn't know what to choose. I te'll her I enjoy when she climbs into bed with me and we snuggle and she tells me about the videos she watching (she likes to watch one that tell you how to handle bee bites and hornets " ).
she climbs up with me....she puts her hand on my cheek and tells me she feels bad. I ask why, and she says because she gave me a rough time.
"Right in the feelz. "
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@Polygeekery said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
I have had similar conversations with my kids.
Kids are weird.
I literally LOLed.
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@Polygeekery said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
I have had similar conversations with my kids.
Kids are weird.
I tell mine that their flesh is their own but their water belongs to the tribe.
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@Polygeekery said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
Kids are weird.
@boomzilla said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
I tell mine that their flesh is their own but their water belongs to the tribe.
Theory: weird parents beget weird kids.
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@kazitor My kids would agree with that.
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My youngest is at the age where we're trying to get him to say some simple words like mummy or daddy. My nearly three year old likes to join in with the teaching with words she likes. The other day, she took over my "can you say Daddy?"
Can you say vulva?
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@Jaloopa My daughter used to work at a day care center, and for some reason she still gets random emails from them. She received this one a day or two ago (paraphrased, because I never saw the original):
Hi peeps,
It's spring again, and the kids are getting curious about their bodies. Here are a few ways to encourage them not to explore each other at day care...
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@Jaloopa said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
My youngest is at the age where we're trying to get him to say some simple words like mummy
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@Polygeekery dude, your mum's really old
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@Jaloopa said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Polygeekery dude, your mum's really old
Don't say that! Mum's the word, after all.
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@Jaloopa said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Polygeekery dude, your mum's really old
She died this last year. She probably looks somewhat similar by now.
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@Polygeekery said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Jaloopa said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Polygeekery dude, your mum's really old
She died this last year. She probably looks somewhat similar by now.
Wow. @Jaloopa looks like a right royal asshole now. Don't he?
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@stillwater not at all. I am pretty sure he knows how I feel about my mother.
I didn't even attend the funeral, so that is certainly not going to offend me. Not that...well...anything really offends me.
@Jaloopa is a right royal asshole for lots of reasons, but this is not one of them. ;)
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@Polygeekery Oh uh I don't quite know what to say. My condolences..?
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@Polygeekery said in Parenting advice - you're gonna get hit:
@Jaloopa is a right royal asshole for lots of reasons, but this is not one of them. ;)
It's true. I'm one good looking dude.
Also, I think @Polygeekery knows that my dad died last year so we're even
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@Jaloopa Oh okay I look like the asshole now. I'm sorry. My condolences.
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@stillwater the day I can't appreciate jokes about my dead dad is the day I lose my humanity
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